Pharisee

I felt compelled to look up the definition this morning. Mixed in between all the other "stuff" was one thought - self-righteous.

Self Righteous! Which means - "piously self-assured and smugly moralistic"

And it fits what I was looking for.

I also found;

"the word 'pharisee' (and its derivatives: "pharisaical", etc.) has come into semi-common usage in English to describe a hypocritical and arrogant person who places the letter of the law above its spirit.

That fits too.

I have a "friend" who publicly "preaches" on Facebook. At the same time he "preaches" his God, he takes time to mock and belittle and blame his ex-wife for his troubles with his son. He maximizes all his troubles in the interest of "proving" he's the victim, not his son. 

And now, since he's recently been blessed with an opportunity in our fellowship with a commitment to chair one of our liason groups, he's making use of a "magic wand" mentality to take the responsibilities of that group to a level they weren't intended to go. As if he now has the ability, through this commitment, to save thousands.

He's lost sight, like many others, that God is the reason we're sober, not human power.

Offensive

Did you actually think that I'd allow a comment advertising a rehab?

Jaz - or whoever you really are - you are pathetic, sad, sick. You'll get the same results when you try it again.

Google may own this space but I'll treat it like it was mine. If you did it on those I own you'd be banned - for life.

Best thought? Go away and don't return...

Trap Doors

She is a young lady coming around for her first time and she doesn't want to drink away her family.

Well... I've had the "pleasure" of knowing more than a few folks who have done that - and more than once for some!

We have to hit bottom before we become as desperate as the dying can be in order to get sober. Yet one of the many things the oldtimers told me that was the truth is;

Every bottom has a trap door. We can always choose to dig deeper. Be happy with the bottom you have had. I haven't found it necessary to add any chapters to my story - absolutely by the grace of God! And you don't have to either...

Expectations

Seems to be a topic of interest recently 'round heeeyah :~)

And the saying I like a lot that relates to them is this;

"Expectations are resentments waiting to happen!"

Works for me...

Patience

Once in a while I have a bit of a challenge with patience. Like now :)

So, I'll look at the positive and continue on with the work I've been given which allows me to take care of my responsibility to my ex and our children. Though I doubt that's the way they perceive it.

6 weeks. In 6 weeks I'll be free. 100%! Every last payment on the support will have been made. In full.

Then the dentist and I will get to know each other much better... AND I'll be playing more golf. And someone will think that selfish.

I'll be grateful. Patience is worth it. I am worth it.

What Somebody Says About Me

What somebody says about me - Doesn't Make Me Who I Am!

If God is for me - who can be against me?

I wasn't about to come strolling into the "rooms" under my own power. Therefore it was an Act of Providence that I'm sober today and every day since the beginning. Which means being sober is a gift from a God I misunderstood a long, long time. A gift that, in my heart, I did NOT believe I deserved. And yet it happened.

So, should I let the words of a man or woman, in judgment of me, make me what I am? I don't think so and I won't allow that to happen anymore...

Thank God for sponsees... pidgeons... :)

Rehabs Eh?

OK MC... great topic :)

Simply put (thanks to Sean A. from L.A.);

"Rehabs and Detoxes have a purpose. That purpose is DISCOVERY! Alcoholics Anonymous also has a purpose. That purpose is RECOVERY!"

Rehabs and Detoxes are NOT AA and AA is NOT a rehab or a detox.

The answers are in the damn book! And if you don't like me because I got it from the book? Guess who's problem that is?

Have a great day :)

Doggone It! MC!!!

There's a story I cannot remember well... about this guy who has serious doubts about God and asks God to send him a sign while he's standing in the middle of a field.

So... he ignores the soft breeze, ignores the butterfly that lands on his shoulder and some other obvious signs that God heard him and is sending the signs he requested. Trouble is the guy doesn't SEE them!

So... I get this unmoderated comment from an old friend telling me she's gonna take my link off her side bar - and it hurts. OK MC, you hit the right "spot." I've hurt enough folks in my life and despite the fact that you and I only "know" each other through these blogs, I still don't want to give you any pain.

I'm ok. When b5media dropped my blogs I was so very discouraged... I tried to carry on here but lost something.

I'm still a happy member of the Southside group in Savannah, Georgia. I am the GSR of my group. I was very excited with the commitment in the beginning, not so much today. But it has helped me grow... and for that I am grateful.

My personal situation with my kids hasn't changed one iota in the last year. Just another year of nothingness. My personal life has also remained exactly the same. Disappointing and also discouraging. Don't get me wrong - I put a lot of effort into changing and God continues to have His plans which seem never to coincide with mine. It is a huge challenge.

But - that's it - for now. MC, if you have to do what you need to do but please, know that I do NOT want you to feel any pain on my account. Please...